The Crate and Barrel life I imaged I could achieve by simply upgrading our things, was a LIE.
While choosing items for my wedding registry and furnishing our new Dallas apartment, I held the belief that owning All-Clad pots and pans and having Crate and Barrel furnishings would make me feel like a “real adult.” You know, the ones who have their sh*t together, host holidays, and have expensive hand soaps in their guest bathrooms.
So before we relocated to Texas, we sold or gave away all of our old and mismatched furniture, donated bags clothes, and said goodbye to knickknacks and clutter that had accumulated over the years. I wanted to style our new apartment to reflect that we were no longer eclectic millennials, but mature young adults, with good jobs, and a stunning home. This move to Texas would be my opportunity to do that.
But, what I’ve come to realize is having a six-person C&B dining table and decorative appetizer plates with matching napkins does not change who you are. I’m still messy and our dinner table still gets piled with junk. I like to work from the couch (not the C&B mid-century modern desk we bought for our office) and I still let the laundry pile up even though we finally have a washer and dryer.
Maybe I’ll grow into my “adult” Crate and Barrel life? Maybe, I’m missing some important gene? The only thing I know for sure is, the Crate and Barrel life I imaged I could achieve by simply upgrading our things, was a LIE.
I’m slowly learning that it is okay to meet yourself where you are. The constant need to self-validate your importance by measuring milestones and material things will drive you crazy.
I’m slowly learning that it is okay to meet yourself where you are. The constant need to self-validate your importance by measuring milestones and material things will drive you crazy. Feeling “less than” if you do not hit a mark on the made-up timeline in your mind is unfair. Family and friends love you for you, not for your job, your home, or your things. We should try to love ourselves that same way.